Motivated Mentality is Mostly in the Mind

It’s the start of a new week, and while the weather is finally on the upswing again, that doesn’t stop us from thinking that once again the weekend is a long way away. That said, how do you stay motivated when all seems lost? There are only so many quotes you can read, only so many cheerful little desk ornaments you can buy, only so many cheerful co-workers with the pasted-on smiles you can take.

The answer, young paduan, lies within you.

With your mind in the right place, you can motivate yourself easily and carry those tools for success and positivity every day. The best part is, because these tools are all metaphorical, they don’t clutter your desk!

First, make a personal commitment to yourself. Relax: we’re not asking you to put a ring on it. Just make a promise to yourself that you’ll do the absolute best you can and stick to it! By promising yourself to follow through, you’re promising not to disappoint yourself. We are our biggest critics, and we all know how it feels to fall short. Commit yourself to never feeling that way again and day by day, it’ll get easier to follow through. People will look to you as someone who is determined and focused and that, in turn, will get you the respect and recognition you deserve. Instead of working with gaining respect in mind, work with the purpose of being motivated.

As cheesy as it sounds, remind yourself of your strong points. Remember way back when you applied for the job and you were asked in the interview “What do you feel are your strengths?” Hopefully, you didn’t just blurt out the first cliche that came to mind. Instead, focus on something that actually makes you stand out from the rest of the workplace. Every day when you look at yourself in the mirror or the reflective edge of your desktop computer, remind yourself of why you’re so awesome. The validation will come after you tell yourself the same thing over and over. It’s like brainwashing, but the socially acceptable kind: the kind that will result in confidence.

Think of yourself as unstoppable. Use it as your code word,…heck, use it as a password! Reminding yourself that you can overcome challenges will make you believe that you can do anything you want and that no matter how unmotivated you may feel, you have it within yourself to see things through.

Finally, reward yourself! Give yourself the praise and reward you deserve. Your efforts should go rewarded, even if you just take yourself out for a treat or buy a little gift for yourself. People who work themselves to the bone but forget to reward their efforts often burn out and lose motivation. Like a mouse receiving a piece of cheese for pushing a button, motivation is a learned behavior. You have to subconsciously learn that you’ll get something out of following through with your plans and working harder than before.

Keep upping your game this week and see how you feel. We bet you’ll feel pretty good and even more motivated to come back to work the next week!


Don’t Fear the Failure

For some people, failure is the worst thing in the world. It’s a feeling worse than death for others. And for others still, it’s wonderful! Failure means something different to us all. Most people look at failure as the end of the world, but those with the potential to be movers and shakers see failure as the incredible learning opportunity that it is.

Fear of failure comes from someplace different for everyone as well. It could be from a childhood mistake that has since manifested into adulthood. It could also be a result from personal relationships. Whatever the underlying cause, there are a few things to look out for to tell if you’re afraid of failure.

Self-sabotage is a major marker for fear of failure. The person might tend to procrastinate more than most people, have anxiety attacks, and otherwise shoot themselves in the foot. They might stop dressing or acting professionally, or perform poorly at work.

Others exhibit a reluctance to change or embrace different ways of doing things. They worry they won’t be able to keep up with the change and instead revert to old systems that might be outdated and will inevitably lead to self-sabotage once they can’t perform work tasks adequately.

A person who is afraid of failure is also a hyper-critical perfectionist with low self-esteem. They obsess over minute details and over react when they make mistakes. They lecture themselves for falling below par and not being “good enough.” This kind of self-abuse is very serious and could indicate a more serious issue like depression.

But all is not lost! Overcoming a fear of failure starts at the source. The person has to simply have in their arsenal a sort of hypothetical preparedness kit. The kit should include:

1. Options. If failure happens, they should have options for the next step to take to overcome the failed attempt and analyze the possible outcome for each option so they can adapt more quickly next time.

2. Positive thought. They need to be more forgiving and remind themselves that they will do better “next time” and that it’s okay to  not be perfect.

3. Reminders: it could have been worse. So you didn’t succeed this time. What is Plan B? How will you do better?

Just look at some of these famous failures and how they adapted to succeed after trying again!